Managing a child’s behavior in a school

December 04, 2018

Few of the very common problems faced by every parent or teachers during the development phase of a child are:


  • Biting or Chewing Nails
  • Hitting or Biting
  • Exploring and Touching Private Parts
  • Sucking of Thumb
  • Nose Picking
  • Lying Quite Often
  • Negative Self-Criticism

The child develop these habits in the age group of 18 months to 3 years. As the child is in the growing stage so these habits also fade away with time. But to instill a positive behavior among children, it is very important to involve parents and help them suggest different ways in which they can help their child to grow and learn in an optimistic environment, maintaining a harmonious relation with their peer group. There are certain ways we would like to suggest to help understand various behavioral changes in a child and how to overcome that.


  • Analyze the underlying reason and needs:

Kids hit and bite as they have a developmental need at this age. It could also be due to repressed anger, anxiety, an urge to control the situation, or to protect their things. Therefore, it is very important to understand that what is there that the child is unable to express and using hitting and biting as the way to express it.


  • Act immediately:

If the child hit or bite, and anyone is watching it then stop the act immediately. Don’t shout, just be firm in your response. Look at him in his eyes and tell him no hitting or that hurts. Take him away from the situation to a place he likes and help him calm down.


  • Distract the little one:

Take away the problem-object and try to distract the child by engaging in something that interests them likeplay on swings, doing a craft activity or simply talking to them.


  • Talk and explain:

The best way to control a child’s behavior is by talking to them and make them understand the consequences of showing a repulsive behavior by giving examples like “What happens if a toy breaks when you hit it against the wall?” or “Would you like it if someone’s hit them?”. Answer those questions for him so he knows why he shouldn’t hit others. This will eventually help him develop his social skills.


  • Monitor your child:

Keep a watch on the child who develops a set pattern of hitting others, stick around and monitor to prevent him from hitting others. Monitoring him closely for few days will give him a warning that as soon as he hits, he/she will be caught by you.


  • Reward good behavior:

A very important role to be performed by the teacher religiously is in appreciating a good behavior when the child does not resort to hitting. For example, for kids above three, you can maintain stars chart, “Each day that you behave well with your friends, you get a star on the chart.


  • Alternative ways of expressing:

Hitting seems the easier way out for some kids because they have no clue what else to do. So, it is the responsibility of the teacher to teach them alternative ways of expressing their emotions, such as:

1. Express through words:

The habit of using more words to express their emotions should be inculcated. This can help him communicate his displeasure and feelings instead of hitting. Teaching simple words such as, ‘no’, ‘please stop’, excuse me, I don’t like it can solve their problem.

2. To get away:

Explain the child to get away from the situation if the situation is unfavorable to him.

3. Speak up:

Encourage the child to ask for help when he/she faces some problem instead of hitting or biting his/her fellow classmates.


  • Reduce screen time:

Talk to the parents,if the child is spending lot of time in watching cartoons, playing games or violent stuff on TV or mobile phones, he is more likely to become aggressive. So, limit his screen time and engage him with physical play and educational games.


  • Introduce games that are gentle to play:

If the child is destructive, and is often found to be throwing toys, breaking things, and kicking someone, then it’s a sign of anxiety and anger. Introduce him to gentle play such as, ‘petting the dog’, ‘hugging the bear’, and so on. This will help a chil to be calmer and respond in a positive way. A hug from a teacher also work wonders if the child is aggressive at that particular time.

To develop skills for good language reading and understanding the teacher should build a platform and spend at least fifteen minutes every day in class by reading a good English story to the children. She can also maintain a small library of simple and short story books which can be given to every child once in 15 days for home and ask parents to assist their child in reading the same.

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